Lifes’ little challengers

It was my cousin Kimberley’s birthday recently and all my old friends that I used to hang out with every weekend when I was in high school, were there. It was great reminiscing about how young and silly we were and how we took life “with a pinch of salt”. I kept thinking to myself, wow.. I was kinda cool : ). People actually looked up to my cool persona and vibe attitude.

Now…

I’m not so sure.

I do know that getting older you realize that you can be doing young silly things in life, and you need to grow up and face the reality that not every situation is rainbows and flowers. Don’t get me wrong. You need to have a bit of fun but not constantly to a point where remembering is optional.

I’ve gotten to that stage in my life where I just want to find that someone special who wants to be happy with me no matter what situation I put them in. Who feels they can talk to be about anything and everything. Someone I can hold close to me when I need to and who won’t feel hurt when I have to face big girl problem by myself and push them away for a bit. But unfortunately, in my generation, this is not possible.

To be completely honest I’m still trying to work out the fact that I do and say inappropriate thing and I have this high expectation of guys and I get angry when they disappoint. This is one of the biggest problems I’m facing. I may be a really good companion but the things I do wrong are constantly highlighted and it replays in my brain making me do them without thinking because I don’t want to do them.. make sense?

I know I’m not the relationship type, but now that I want one it makes it that much harder for me. Challenges and obstacles in life are those that make or break you. These are things that define you as a person and whether or not you can channel yourself into thinking, being and doing things that you would not normally think, be or do.

Matters of the Heart

This topic is overdone and over discussed but no one really has “enough” to say about it. Some people just can stop the constant discussion about who their next boyfriend/girlfriend will be and some of us hate this topic because of bad experiences. What has been concerning me, being at that age (21) is the constant need for girls to be in a relationship or to have a “guy” in their life.

Lately, I’ve found myself stuck in very tricky situations because of misconceptions and the wrong interpretations of certain circumstances. Basically people over analysis every scenario and replay it in their heads over and over again. It causes a lot of unnecessary heart break and “ruining life” moments.

Firstly, STOP being so Dramatic!

Secondly, Life goes on

I keep hearing things like, “I wish I had a boyfriend” or “Why does no one want to be with me?” Why not be with yourself? Why not be happy just by making a success of your life? Why not have fun hanging out with your friends? Why do you constantly need someone in your life to make you feel complete? ‘’Another person shouldn’t complete you, but rather compliment you.’’ as my friend Mariam would say.

We are always searching for someone who will bring meaning to our lives but why not let that reason be you. There are lots of people living there lives alone and making a killing! It worries me that people think it is top priority to ‘’Find Love’’. We need to start believing in ourselves before searching for that one special person.

New Discoveries

So things have been extremely crazy and blogging has not been a priority but today I’m taking the time to get some things off my chest.

Work has been hectic and for the past few months I have discovered that; I hate doing data bases. It is definitely a strong hatred and I cannot deal! Thing is, I know that I’m an intern and I have to do a lot of jobs that no one really wants to do but give me anything, and I repeat, ANYTHING, but data bases.

For those of you who don’t understand the procedure of a data base, I shall explain. Basically you collect information on a specific topic, such as Bakeries, and usually you get a region, let’s say for example, South Africa. Then you research every Bakery you can find on the internet and collect there contact details. Sometimes, all they have is a number, with no location, no email, no address and that’s where it gets a bit tricky. The point of a data base is to send information about your company in mass amounts to “potential clients”, (that’s why you look for them on the internet) to make a bridge in-between that gap of the unknown to the known. Keep in mind, I work for a media company. Anyway, if they do not have any information but a phone number, you need to call them.

This is where I will not sugar coat the situation…

People are rude on the phone : |

It is what it is.

You get the few modest folks that are such a pleasant to talk to, and then you get the fill on “I don’t want to talk to you” type of people.

But the experience humbles you and makes you a better person. You become stronger and able to handle any situation with a positive attitude and most people appreciate that.

So remember : Keep a positive attitude and no one can bring you down

Tapping into your Happiness :)

“Happiness is a choice” – unknown

Reviewing on this quote I found, I realized that people depend on others to make them happy. And most of the time, they think that being in love with someone will make them happy. I do not agree nor disagree with this theory but it got me thinking.

Why not just find YOUR true happiness and embrace it?

So, that what I’ve decided to do J

I’ve never been that type of girl who falls in love quickly or at all (ok, NEVER!), but I do believe that there are different types of love. Love you have for your friends and family and love for someone more special. Most of the time, I’ve seen my friends fall in love with one guy and they reach this “happy point”, then something doesn’t go there way and then it’s a downwards spiral of a series of disappointing, and depressing events.

What people tend to forget is that, no one can make you happier then yourself.

Think about it…

Who knows you better then yourself… hmmmm… errrrr… NO ONE!

I know that if I’m sad, I binge on the dark chocolate, pastries dripped in icing sugar and all types of cakes, this includes a good quality brownie.. YUM! This is not always the healthier option but chocolate and sugars in general, actually contains endorphins which are produced by the pituitary gland and the hypothalamus in vertebrates during exercise, excitement, pain, consumption of spicy and sugar based food, love and orgasms, and they resemble the opiates in their abilities to produce analgesia and a feeling of well-being. This is why we like eating it when we not feeling all that happy. Our body craves to be happy and feel good, our body craves endorphins.

When I’m happy, sushi is the best thing since sliced bread. California sandwiches, fashion sandwiches, maki, and salmon roses…. #tots delicious. That’s just my personal endorphin I guess.

By choosing to be happy, you are more positive and optimistic and the world receives this positivity and throws it right back at you!

So in the end it’s up to you. You make your own decisions in life (I hope), on what you choose to feel and eat. Just remember that no one knows you better then yourself and no one can change that.

My Adventure Begins

What a week!

It’s been just over a week of my work integrated learning and my brain feels like its being mashed and pureed, as liquid form is the only way it fits in my head! So much knowledge and experience and memorable moment have occurred that I’m SO excited to be a part of this team for many days to come. It has been an absolute please waking up at 6am every morning and only getting home at pass 18:00pm at night.

Here is a look at my email signature:

The caffeine overload has definitely gotten to me a bit but I’m sure that Mariam Khan (my Robin in this Batman world), will learn that that’s when I’m most creative.

My boss, Jason is the extreme of funny and does not know that his phone can be switched off loud speaker.    My supervisor, Helena is the sweetest lady I know. They both are very inspiring in their own ways and make me feel comfortable in any situation. Everyone else in my office is young and talented in their own way. They take pride in everything they do but still understand that you need to “live a little”.

I thought that working in the northern suburbs would be a bore, but the great beaches and the fact that there is two malls across the road from each other and not to mention the fact that we are situated in a road filled with great hotels and excellent restaurants, this is an absolute dream for a food lover!

This latest employment has defiantly made me more aware of me as a person and what I have to offer, and of cause what I still need to learn. My independence has grown and my love for food has just gotten bigger (if that was even possible). I can definitely say that:  “I love my job”

This new venture and milestone in my life has humbled me and made me more open to understanding life as we know it. I can’t wait for the next challenge life has installed for me. I have also, taken a new interest in hotels and their food and life in general, thus making me change my focus not only on food but on adventures I experience in life.

 p.s. I thought id share a picture of me at the beach, just enjoying mt time at Shout Factory 🙂